One-Upmanship
hmm... I just recently discovered the meaning of this word... and it got me thinking
looks like it's one of the basic human needs to feel superior in some aspect... One-Upmanship only brings this to extreme, when someone tries to keep that superiority in every aspect...
and.... feeling superior in some aspects... seems to be the basis of us feeling satisfied with ourselves...
question is: what aspects? .... and... what means superior?
obviously, we want to be superior (the best) in aspects of life which WE find most important... it could be physical strength, intelligence, humor, skill, kindness, etc.
So, it's very subjective what aspects are important...
other thing that is subjective is... what meens good, or better?... sometime it's obvious (like physical strength), and sometime it's not (like kindness or humor)
to summarize: to feel good about ourselves, we need to think of ourselves as better than others in areas of life that we think are important
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downside is... well... superego...
'cause when we share our subjectivness with someone else... while we are superior and satisfied, the other one is not.... so, we need to be carefull in showing of superiority, in order to be friendly... (and maybe, that's just another aspect which we try to be better at ;) ...
another conclusion would be... we have to encourage diversity and subjectivity, 'cause that way, more of us will be happy their own way, with their own feel of superiority... :)
looks like it's one of the basic human needs to feel superior in some aspect... One-Upmanship only brings this to extreme, when someone tries to keep that superiority in every aspect...
and.... feeling superior in some aspects... seems to be the basis of us feeling satisfied with ourselves...
question is: what aspects? .... and... what means superior?
obviously, we want to be superior (the best) in aspects of life which WE find most important... it could be physical strength, intelligence, humor, skill, kindness, etc.
So, it's very subjective what aspects are important...
other thing that is subjective is... what meens good, or better?... sometime it's obvious (like physical strength), and sometime it's not (like kindness or humor)
to summarize: to feel good about ourselves, we need to think of ourselves as better than others in areas of life that we think are important
................
downside is... well... superego...
'cause when we share our subjectivness with someone else... while we are superior and satisfied, the other one is not.... so, we need to be carefull in showing of superiority, in order to be friendly... (and maybe, that's just another aspect which we try to be better at ;) ...
another conclusion would be... we have to encourage diversity and subjectivity, 'cause that way, more of us will be happy their own way, with their own feel of superiority... :)
posted by Chupa at
10:30 AM
1 Comments:
toughts about text:
first dont look around yourself if you want to be superior. tougths about your picture in friends eyes just will discaurage you to countiniu your development. this constation is trying to find one absolute idea of good (in meaning of tehnical, not good/bad) i attempt to prove that if you are in constant deveopment to become superior you must have people wich will understand your progress. in that secret there is no relative truth about being good in things that we think are good.
if you are (subjective) superior there is just one absolute need you should try to find in your friends. that they dont find you againts them, afraid of you. they must want to take all best from you.
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and of course if we try to moralize this story there will be things that are not so relative. if you are trying to find drug against cancer and you became superior there is a great chance that you will considered for nobel prize and loved by many people. against maybe you will find your colegs afraid of you.
there is so many ideas about relativity from you. you should counitiu to improve your toughts about this thema and share with us
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Veroljub Zmijanac, at 4:23 AM
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